by Alice Wheaton
(review)
We all face anger during our lives. How long we let it live inside us, we allow it to destroy our lives:
“Anger can be a means of self-defense, but when it is allowed to fester, it makes us its own prisoners.”
Each person acts to the best of their knowledge at any moment. However, we can hurt others knowingly or unknowingly and, in turn, can be hurt as well.
We go through life content with crumbs, and therefore we are in a permanent state of physical and spiritual hunger. We crave balance, relationships, and our own ingenuity, so that we can shine.
The lack of forgiveness and resentment will follow us for years, and maybe for our entire lives, keeping us away from self-love and love for others.
The deadly combination of entitlement and resentment is a fortress that keeps love, passion, and the joys of life at bay.
Though we are told that time heals all wounds, sometimes life passes, and wounds remain unhealed. Therefore, rather than just waiting for time to heal everything, we have forgiveness and compassion available to us.
Forgiveness is a process that eases the weight of emotional wounds that we carry for years… It is the decision to let go of the past and instead, to take action for healing our wounds. Alice Wheaton offers us the principle of forgiveness in percentages – 1% per day, which will lead to 365% in a year….
Beyond forgiveness, we also have the opportunity to offer compassion. For both forgiveness and compassion, we need the courage to face our fears.
Acceptance and a positive attitude are like the mortar that holds the bricks together.
The author suggests that we should ask ourselves questions to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the motivations behind our experiences and decisions. By practising forgiveness and compassion, we come to realise that “weakness is a strength waiting to be transformed” (paragraph from the book). This process allows us to make new decisions and learn to establish our own boundaries, ultimately enabling us to change our lives.
Having a good heart does not mean tolerating the intolerable and accepting the unacceptable, but it means changing what you can and letting go or forgiving the rest.
Forgive and Forget: Strategies for Peace of Mind (Iertare și compasiune) is an interesting and easy-to-read book.
Love, Manuela
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Such wonderful words of forgiveness, Dawn! 💕
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