Be who you really are – yourself!
“Do you know who I am? Do you know who you are talking to?” These are a few questions I have been asked by my “boss” at my last job, for not doing what she wanted even if that thing was against the regulations …
In our society, people do identify themselves with their position, their job, their “label” and think that the more they stay in the same position the more powerful they are. Take off their position, money, whatever they have and make them live a simple life. They will be more frustrated than you are for they feel they are better than you, they are superior.
Take a look around you. In a forest, you could find oak trees, pine trees, ash trees, but each of them is a tree. We have been separated by words as boss, director, supervisor and they do not show who they really are. You are not your diplomas, your job, your position, your money, any of them. We are all human beings. After death, people will not remember you as your diplomas, your position but what you have done for them.
From so much separation we do not accept ourselves and others as we are for ego does not let us. In our society, we are taught that following rules make us better, smarter, wiser and we could be rewarded. Many people compromise themselves for those rewards. Making mistakes means you feel/are stupid, ignorant, small and you are punished for them. We have not been taught that making mistakes is human, and we do not accept our mistakes and others making mistakes when that is just a way of learning. Moreover, they make us stronger and smarter and punishments and rewards are ways of building separation, a conditioned society.
Neither punishment nor reward will hurt or make you feel happier than you are when doing what you really like doing. Do not be afraid of punishment for those who punish you are living the same pains inside them as you do, sometimes bigger. Do not compromise yourself for rewards.
“Don’t compromise yourself – you’re all you have.” ― John Grisham, The Rainmaker
Follow your own truth
When doing what others tell you what to do, you are not yourself. Following what your boss is asking you to do even if you know it is not right, it is just for you are afraid of the power of his position. Kissing his feet, will make you feel small, inferior for you are afraid of upsetting him for you will be punished. Telling what you feel, you are going to be punished, too (as I did :)) but at least you do not feel that great pain inside you for you have been yourself.
Telling what you feel means following your own truth. Taking action when you feel it is respecting yourself. Trying to think of what you have and what you loose, your mind is going to find thousands of reasons for stopping you from doing what you feel and your pain inside you will become bigger.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ― Bernard M. Baruch
Usually a child does what he feels and he enjoys that. When he is punished by his parents, his teacher, his colleagues for not doing a thing as they do, as they see it, the child starts doing things as the others around him want. He is not himself anymore. He becomes another drop in a crowd, a copy of somebody else’s for he tries avoiding punishment.
It is in your power to choose to be angry with yourself for you are not doing what you feel. You choose to be angry with others for you are doing what others want you to do. Take attitude, speak your voice, encourage yourself and be a real example of who you really are for your children for they copy what they see not what you tell them to do.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Use your life opportunities
Do not be attached to anything and anybody for all that comes to your life is for a reason and it is for your good. Live your opportunities. Do not be afraid for a failure will make you wiser and even a drop of success will make you happier. So, what do you loose? Nothing, for in both cases you are a inner, you gain parts of who you really are.
Any new opportunity is a new chance your life brings to you. A new opportunity means choosing: to be or not to be who you are. You choose to listen to others or to listen to your soul.
“Sometimes, we are so attached to our way of life, that we turn down a wonderful opportunity simply because we don’t know what to do with it.” -Paulo Coelho
Accepting who you really are, as you are, you are yourself. Your real truth is inside you. Go deep into your heart to know it and listen to. Let you be who you really are – yourself.
You once told me
You wanted to find
Yourself in the world –
And I told you to
First apply within,
To discover the world
You once told me
You wanted to save
The world from all its wars –
And I told you to
First save yourself
From the world,
And all the wars
You put yourself
APPLY WITHIN by Suzy Kassem”
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