Last week I found the following quote:

Instead of being a period of unusual behaviour, Christmas is perhaps the only time of year when people can listen to their natural impulses and express their true feelings without feeling self-conscious and maybe crazy. In short, Christmas is about a man’s only chance of being himself.

– Francis C. Farley

In my opinion, the quote expresses the truth. Maybe, the rest of the year you just try to please others, to respect the rules made by others or to do what you have been educated to do. Most of us do not do an important thing, to be ourselves.

Christmas is the season of the year when being yourself, you feel good. Probably, you feel happy. So, who are you for the rest of the year? Why are not you happy?

To be happy, in our society, you need something to motivate you. If we do not have a reason, or we do not have things or people we consider needing them, we are not worthy. Thus, we accept what others want us to, and we are not ourselves but the desired variant by others or our ego.

Is Christmas the only chance you have?

Is Christmas the only chance we have to be ourselves? The truth is that at Christmas time we wish the best to everyone, even strangers. We also feel that every person deserves to be happy.

It seems as we really live only during Christmas time. What about the rest of the year?

From my own experience, we cannot be ourselves because of the fear of facing our own fears. And these can be many …

Anxiety

Anxiety is just a bunch of fears and it is natural to make you feel the need for something or someone in your life. Their presence in your life makes you feel worthy. Otherwise, you feel incomplete and unhappy.

There is also the fear of losing a person from your life. But every person who comes into and leaves your life helps you become the person you are today.

There is a fear of being alone on holidays. Thus, you feel unloved because no one wants you in his/ her life. Consequently, you enter into toxic relationships and consider that you love without being loved.

Anxiety is the poison of human life.    

– Blair

So, you need to confront your fears. The more you do it, the happier and free you feel you are.

Another kind of Christmas

This Christmas I lived like any other day of the year, without anything festive. Actually, it is the way I live for several years now. I mean, the way I never thought before I’d ever do it.

This year was also the first time that the only companies I had were my dogs and a cat. I was far from the hustle and bustle of the city, and the rush holidays bring with them.

Thus, I enjoyed the pine tree I planted in the yard, but without decorating it. I enjoyed the food I have without doing anything special. I enjoyed the loyalty of the dogs and the cat purr.

It does not mean that I do not like the other people’s company or a man’s presence, but I do not want the company of one just for not being alone. It does not mean that I do not love my child, mother or siblings. They are always with me because I have them in my soul all year long.

Gratitude for everything

Going back to fears and anxiety, they are what brought me into my toxic relationships I have experienced. The good part is that they taught me to love myself first. To be grateful for every minute I live and for everything I have in my life. They taught me to be grateful for what I have and to give others what I have.

I learned that You do not need anything or anyone in your life to be happy. You find that happiness within and when you have found it, no one can take it away. It is part of yourself.

Do we need a certain time of year to be ourselves? Do we need many people around us to know that we are worthy?

Love and gratitude for everything is part of ourselves. It is because

love and gratitude are fundamental to the phenomenon of life in all of nature.

― Masaru Emoto, The Hidden Messages in Water

How would the world be like if?

Living By giving

A gift to everyone every day of our life? No, you do not need to go shopping for gifts every day.

A GIFT can be a kind word, a thank you, please or forgive me. You can like or comment on someone else’s work. These are gifts we can offer every day to anyone. Thus, we can bring Christmas into someone else’s soul any day all year long.

Christmas gift suggestions: to your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect.

 – Oren Arnold

Living Beyond ego

The ego is the one that distorts and limits the way we live. Your chance of being yourself you have it every day. You can choose to face your fear or to live with them.

It is living by letting be Christmas every day in your life or only once in a while.

Living With gratitude

In my opinion, the Christmas spirit can be a way of living for each and every one of us. You do not need to belong to some specific church or religion. You can carry that spirit all year long with you because you can find it within you.

I wish we could put some of the Christmas spirits in jars and open a jar of it every month.

– Harlan Miller

With Christmas in your heart, you keep it all year long and share it with others. Thus, you have the chance to be yourself in every single day of your life.

I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year!

– Charles Dickens, Ebeneezer Scrooge, A Christmas Carol

I wish you Christmas in your heart and to keep it all the year!

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With Love,

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