Do You Choose Love or Fear?


Do you choose fear or love? It is a question you may ask yourself for every dream you have. Following what you wish is because you follow your heart, you follow the love. Stopping of pursuing it is because of fear.

What is Fear?

Fear is the prison of the heart.

~ Anonymous

Fear is a distortion of reality, which we use to limit our lives even if it exists only in our imagination. In this way, we create a false reality in our minds and let it become our reality.

It is known that we are born with two fears: fear of height and fear of noise. The rest of fears are named abnormal because they come from a lack of confidence and a lot of limits imposed on the way of thinking. Moreover, think of the fear as a weapon within you. The more you believe in the fears and use them as an excuse for what you do not do, the more your life will be filled with hatred, anguish, and insecurity by that weapon.

Where does it fear come?

We all suffer from fear, and as we know, it can be our greatest enemy if we accept it. We live with the fear of failure, of not being loved, of what others think, of being “too small”, of not being worthy, the fear of lack, of not having enough. The biggest fear is of death.

Look at the kids, because they don’t know fear. They have neither life experience nor diplomas, but they do not know fear. They do what they feel and like to do. At the same time, they know they can do a lot of things. All it is the same until the adult tells him “you can’t do because you’re too young, you have to go to school, you have to grow up, you have to know what life is”. He educates the child in the idea of ”must”, for otherwise there will be imagined consequences. All those educate fear, for the family is the first place where fear education starts.

It continues in schools where you find about comparison, competition for rewards. In the same time, mistakes mean punishment with low marks or different kind of punishment.

We are also taught to have a lot of fears and trapped living life through the others’ thoughts. Believing what is worst, ugly, and in negativity, it is what we create in our reality.

From lack of confidence, fear can take different routes, but all go deep inside and you become a prisoner of your fears. In this way, you are afraid of following your soul’s desires.

Listening to fear

Fear has an inner voice that is very deep and convincing. As you focus on that voice, you become more and more convinced of it. The lies offered by politics and religion propagated through the media, and fights/ wars for money and power. All mean fear.

From lack of confidence, fear can take different routes, but all go deep inside, and you become a prisoner of fears. In this way, you are afraid of following your soul desires.

You could imagine each fear as a stone, which piles up throughout your life, and at one point, the high wall is like a mountain, and its height is different for each of us. For some, it is higher, for others, smaller.

Moreover, fear does not let you trust yourself, follow your dreams, act towards the beauty of your creation, as your life should be.

What is beyond Fear?

“On the other side of your fear mountain is the mountain of your self-esteem and self-love. The Fear Mountain is bigger, and your self-esteem mountain is smaller, but when you start to face and accept fear, that transforms into a new stone of self-esteem and self-love. The lower your fear mountain becomes, the higher your self-esteem mountain does.” 

Usually, you start by asking yourself what happens to you for there are so many fears in your life. How did you get so anxious, so full of frustration? How will you escape? Is there a way to do it?

Listening to your heart

Steve Jobs says, “you dare to follow your heart and intuition“. We all have heart and intuition, but we are not taught to listen to and follow them. You are afraid to do it. For the ego knows to follow what sees with your physical eyes. You are not educated in the other way, to believe in unseen. Therefore, you do not know you are capable of doing it until you start slowly working in that direction.

 You need to know that you are a brave human being because you have learned to overcome your fear when you have learned to take the first steps and say the first word. From the moment you realize how powerful you are without fear, it can no longer kneel you because you have the power to step over it.

You don’t like to talk about these things because ego sees yourself as insufficiently worthy good or capable compared to others. Yet, when you start doing it, nothing can stop you because you slowly discover that fear is an illusion, and what you have and can share is the love of your soul. 

Beyond fear, you find the love you carry inside you, but hidden deep, deep inside, where you do not seek or think to seek: in YOUR Soul. You have to release it from the prison of fear.

You find that “Fear is the virtue of slaves, but love is the joy of the heart.

~ Longfellow

“You can spend your life flying or talking about flying “. Thus you can choose: to live in fear or to free your heart and follow it.

Love or Fear? The choice is yours!

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25 thoughts on “Do You Choose Love or Fear?

  1. Love it, especially that last quote! “You can spend your life flying or talking about flying “. Thus you can choose: to live in fear or to free your heart and follow it.
    I’m flying to Las Vegas this week because my dad, who passed away in March, told me mentally to “fly for him”, the morning after this opportunity to go presented itself to me. Ah, synchronicities! ❤️🦋🌀😉

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    1. You are right! There are synchronicities in our life if we want to see them! 🙂
      I am glad for your choice to fly for your dad. Following your intuition is the best way to live (in my opinion).
      Thank you so much for your read, thoughts and appreciation!
      ❤ 🔆 ❤

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    1. In my opinion, it is easier to choose fear, for we are comfortable with. It is the way people know the best.
      Thank you for your visit and comment, Mr. Mel!
      ❤ 🙏 ❤


  2. Thats were i am Manuela FEAR of Love Lol it’s funny i have had 3 dates this week and pulled out of each one got no idea why but i just don’t go through with them Mmmm its something i’m working on.. Lol great article really enjoyed reading it … have a great day Manuela.

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    1. Maybe it is not the right time or you do not have to know those persons (yet).
      Every time I was feeling fear I was going deep inside me looking for the reason of that. Founding that, it was felt as a releasing of that fear. Actually, I was accepting its existence and letting it go.
      Do not worry, for you will find the way to go through! 🙂
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and appreciation!
      Have a great day every day, Paul!


      1. Manuela you have a such a good way of putting things into perspective and say it with kind words i appreciate that and your friendship … thank u Manuela have a great day.

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  3. Mi-au plăcut mult aceste indemnuri la iubirea pe care l-am pierdut, inlocuindu-l cu frici de tot felul impuse de oameni și societate..

    Multumesc Mult de cuvintele pline de adevăr si încurajare !

    O Săptămână Frumoasă iti Doresc !!!

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    1. Mă bucur foarte mult că ți-a plăcut ceea ce ai citit și îți mulțumesc din suflet pentru faptul că îmi împărtășești acest lucru!
      Îți doresc ca fiecare zi să îți fie frumoasă!


      1. Cu Mare Drag Manuela, și eu Multumesc pentru aceste articole deosebite care pe mine mă ridică de fiecare dată, sunt ca o rugaciune pentru mine..

        O Noate Liniștită îți Doresc !!!

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  4. So many great quotes here, and all so relevant and important! I’ve recently made some really big scary moves and I keep reminding myself to listen to my heart, it knows the way!


    1. You are right, it is really scary. In my opinion, we have not been taught how to live listening to our heart, but our mind and that finds thousands doubts for every move we make. Our heart knows One Way , for as you said “it knows the way”, our own way. Follow your way and you will not be disappointed!
      Thank You for reading and sharing your thoughts!


    1. You are right, fear make us feel paralysed and unable to do a lot of things we want to. It explains why fear is used as a way of controlling people in our society.
      Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. Thank you so much for your honesty!
      Manuela 🙂

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