“Do not try to live the life you think you should instead of the life you want.
Are you making this decision because you think it is right or you feel it’s right? Is it your heart or you head telling you what to do?”
They are replies I have heard many times in movies or read them in books. Do people apply those in their daily life? In my opinion there are no many for our world will be a happy one. Where people follow their heart, there happiness has its house and not anxiety and depression. It is because we are told to follow what other people say or what they teach us. In that way, we do not know ourselves for we are not let/ helped to discover ourselves. Listening to others, you do not listen to yourself but depend on other people’s opinion as Osho says
“Discover yourself, otherwise you have to depend on other people’s opinion who don’t know themselves.”
In many people’s mind, “someone” (other people) is a person with high position, with “power”, with money. You believe him because of those things for it is what your mind is trained to believe into. Ego wants to see what it thinks, what it believes into. When believing what you feel, you just follow and do for you know you are in power of your life. Moreover, if what I am telling you (take “I” as anyone else), you feel that resonates with you, you are not going to agree with me for I am not “somebody”, you do not know me as being “someone”, and having “something worthy” where worth is position and money. You prefer what others do for you are scared of being excluded form the crowd, you are afraid of being alone on your way and you do not want to feel that pain. In that way, you do not know who you really are, what your power is and what you can do.
“When you’re constantly thinking of others and what they must be thinking or feeling or expecting, you wind up in this perpetual state of trying to please them. You see yourself through their eyes and you lose sight of who you are.” (Michael Soll)
Losing sight of who you are, you lose yourself in someone else’s world, someone else’s perception. Doing what you feel, you start discovering yourself, what you like, what you dislike, your weaknesses and your strength. You will find that you can do what you want as long as you do not see yourself attached to someone, depending on others. Any string you think you have, it is your mind way of keeping you apart from your inside power. Nothing can be a string as long as you do not rely on it, if you will not allow to give your power to.
Listen to anybody for everybody can give you a lesson, but follow what you feel that resonates with you. Do not follow what others tell you just for the sake of “fashion”.
When not following what you feel, your self-esteem goes down. Whenever you try to please others even if your heart says no, you sabotage yourself for making others feeling good. You lie to yourself and you do not feel right.
Actually, it is only one thing in our life we try to avoid discovering – ourselves. It is more comfortable doing what others are doing, relying on others and depending on them. It is the way the entire life we look for someone to love and be loved by, to share our life with. It is the way that toxic relations are born. As long as we do not know ourselves we are not going to be happy with us and people around us. It is the reason that when we find ourselves, we are happy as we are, with who we are and we are also happy with people around us.
“Discover your true positive self first, before seeking for a special someone to come into your life. Without unconditional self-love, one will forever feel confused and empty on the inside.” (Edmond Mbiaka)
We are told to see how a person is, what is good and bad in. We like talking about others, but we do not realise that everything we like or dislike in them is what we have or miss in ourselves. Do not look for solving someone else mystery as long as you have not found yet your own mystery.
Every snowflake is unique. Every seed is unique. They know it and just follow their knowledge. We are the same, too. I mean each of us is unique, too. Why should I follow your knowledge? Someone else can be your guide but he is not going to know what you know deep in your heart. That is the reason you are not going to be discovered by someone else. You are the only one who can do it. Every seed is a mystery of life, is the mystery of creation.
Your own misery is inside you and it is waiting to be discovered. Nobody else can do it for you. The power is Yours and that is the real power, the power of love we all are.