According to the dictionary, to promise means to tell someone that you will do something. To be sure that you will do it. Everyone feels appreciation when the promise is respected. However, life is full of unfulfilled promises.

Unfulfilled promises

There are promises we make to ourselves, to others and others to us. It is a circle in which we can endlessly spin. Besides, we feel that if we complain, fight or hurt each other, we will solve something.

Types of promises

There are promises of your loved one that he will call you. He does not do it, for he is comfortable as is or because he forgot to.

There are promises parents make to the children and are not respected. The child will grow up with the idea that he is not good enough. He will think he can make promises without keeping them.

There are husband’s unkept promises that he will not drink, or that he will bring the money home. His wife and children will no longer believe in him. Children copy what they see and will have an example of a liar.

There are promises of those whom we choose to represent us. Once they have reached where they want, they forget about their promises. They will only remember one thing: how to be richer with what they take from others.

Make promises they do not keep

As a rule, they use positive forms to attract people. Words that would make them credible. When they reach where they want, they forget their words. They will have only one answer for everything: that it is not possible, because there is no money. Unfortunately, they will have money for everything they want. In this way, they represent the best example of high-level lies. Or, as Pierce Brown says,

“Liars make the best promises.”

We have candidates for all kinds of positions that win their votes by fake promises and buying people’s vote. I did not see any candidate going from place to place through the country, without security, and talking to people. I did not see them listening to people wishes and dissatisfaction. To follow them, conclude and take steps that are needed.

In my opinion, no party is better than another. Politics is all a lie. All that makes is lying, stealing, taking everything it can. If you appeal to them, to solve local problems, they throw the responsibility from one institution to another or shut them down. The taken measures are for not disturbing those who give them their complete support. Politicians are the first who do not respect the laws.

My experience

1. More than 20 years ago, as president of a polling station, I witnessed a way of falsifying the number of votes. When I had to handle over the papers, somebody took them from my hand. Besides, before entering the official office for checking, I was given the cancelled votes as counted votes for the party in question at that time. Moreover, they asked me to keep my mouth shut. I froze understanding how big the lie can be to those greedy by power. How big is the lie we live?

2. For the problems in the village where I live, I also contacted the party represented by certain people who do “what they like”. I sent messages using the party’s website and called the phone number existing on the site. Besides, I contacted the person who just occupied a leading position in the government, writing his a private message on Fb. I haven’t received an answer yet. 🙂 He could say “ I do not want, know or have time to answer. Someone else would contact you”. They all are “selling doughnuts”. The local party branch told me that someone would contact me. Nothing at all.

If indeed, those with power would have an interest in keeping promises, they would consider the people’s opinions, because the crowd votes them. Or at least, it seems to be that way. Here, I agree with what Dennis E. Adonis says:

“Voting is not a right. It is a method used to determine which politician was most able to brainwash you. ”

How can they keep promises?

Those who run the country, if they would be really interested in keeping their promises, would care about:

– roads “crying” to be worked

– schools to have the necessary conditions for children

– schoolbooks with mistakes

– unlighted villages at night

– elderly who walk 10 km to town to buy medicine or food

– children walking to school, in the dark, with a flashlight in hand

– forested forests mercilessness

– bureaucracy without limits

– representatives of the authorities who do not comply with the law

– countless laws that apply only to the simple man

– historical monuments to be repaired

All comes down to fake promises (lies) for people and the country. Thus, promises remain on paper only for election time. Otherwise, the wind takes their promises and turns them into their full accounts. They do not forget to lie.

You believe in their promises. Moreover, you give them your vote, that becomes their right to do what they want to. They are making the law and are careful to have diplomatic immunity. Therefore, they know that you cannot hold them accountable for what they do. Thus, believing in their promises, they will lead to you being broken.

What do you have left? The pain of giving them your vote and believing in them? If people don’t go to vote them, how would they be elected?

What would our world be like if we not only make promises but make things happen? What about you? Do you make promises you can keep?

With Love,

Copyright © 2019 manuela@inalove.world

In life, we all like it when receiving appreciation. Everyone likes to receive a “heartily thank you”. In my way, I feel when a thank you comes from the soul or it is a fake one. Probably, you do, too. There it is, for you know it in your heart. Moreover, appreciation brings you joy and smiles on your face.

Yesterday, I lived something special. Early in the morning, I received a phone call from one of my neighbors, who had a small accident in the garden. Due to her health condition, that little accident had unexpected consequences. It turned into sudden profuse bleeding at one foot. I took her to the hospital. After she was given first aid, the ambulance took her to a bigger hospital for wound stitching. I brought her luggage and, because my help was not needed anymore, greeting the on-call staff, I decided to leave. The doctor asked me “are you her daughter?” I said, “no, just a neighbor”. He looked up at me and said: “thank you for bringing her here.”

That thank you, made me feel a sincere appreciation of my action. Unfortunately, despite the joy of appreciation, many times, we use flattery as fake appreciation.

Flattery brings you fake joy

We use flattery because of fear:

Fear of being worthless.

It is fear that you are not good enough, you are not worthy. You use flattery as a fake appreciation when saying thank you through your teeth. You do it, for your ego suffers. It does not want someone else to be better, richer, worthier than you.

It means that people without a job or a lower position use fake appreciation for their boss because they are afraid of him. Why? It is because, in our way of thinking, his job means power/ authority. In our society, those who have “power” are those doing what they want. The laws are available for the crowd and not for the”chosen” ones. Thus, it is a way of making you feel you are worthless.

Fear of losing

We are also using flattery because of the fear of not losing something, from the fear of lack in which we are taught to live.

Going back to what I said above, a boss can become “milk and honey” when he talks to somebody else in a higher position. They live in fear that they will lose their job and the rights coming from that. Actually, they are too scared to see themselves somewhere below, or equally to you. The ego likes to be someone. It does not want them to see they are just like you and me, common people.

Flattery can be used between partners. It comes from the fear of losing the one you think you love or fear of being lonely.

What brings flattery? Frustration and anxiety for those who use it.

What about appreciation?

Appreciation brings you joy

Think of the smile on your loved face, when receiving a flower, or looking at a sunrise or sunset. Think of spending time with your loved ones. You can think of appreciation when the cat purrs and a puppy is waving its tail. Also, you can appreciate the warmth of the soul that comes from the lines of a poem or the experiences lived or imagined from a short story. Thus, appreciation does not come from fear or selfishness. Appreciation comes from everything you enjoy. It comes from what resonates with you.

Actually, appreciation is part of you, because it comes from your soul. It is a reason that giving appreciation is difficult for your ego and it is not for your soul. A smile, a touch, a kind word come from your soul for another one. In that way, the real appreciation brings joy to the giver and receiver.

Flattery or appreciation?

“The difference between appreciation and flattery? It’s simple. One is sincere, the other is sincere. One comes from the heart, the other from the teeth. One is selfish, the other is selfish. One is universally appreciated, the other is universally condemned. ”- Dale Carnegie

If appreciation is simply a part of us, we can learn or re-learn it.

How can you learn to appreciate?

• By doing what you feel. Thereby, you are satisfied. Thus, you do not depend on anyone else’s appreciation. I mean you respect yourself.
• By respecting yourself as a human being. In that way, you can respect others. In fact, you respect people as being born worthy, and not the value of their things.
• Change what you don’t like to do!
• Change what you don’t like you have. Don’t expect anyone to do what you don’t do.
• Say thank you, sorry or forgive me.
• Be grateful for what you have.
• Enjoy the magic of a smile, a touch, a nice word.
• Enjoy the “now”.

In fact, appreciation does not come from fear and need. It cannot be imposed, for it is within you. That is why you feel when a simple thank you comes from the soul or is made through the teeth. It is the reason a simple thank you makes you feel happy. Actually, as I said, appreciation brings you joy and smiles on your face.

In conclusion, you can

“Thank the earth for all that it offers you, thank heaven for the rain that nourishes your earth, thank the sun for the warmth and light of your home and hearth, thank the moon for the peace of your sleep, thank the stars for watching over your sleep, thank you the mountain for the tales and iron you take from it, thank the forest for everything you get from there, thank the spring for the water you drink, thank the tree for the works that show you, thank the good man who brings you joy and smile on your face.” (The Laws of Zamolxis)

How will our world be with real appreciation?

With Love,

Copyright © 2019 manuela@inalove.world

Where does the blame come from? Are you feeling guilty or not guilty for your life?

We live in a world in which everyone seeks to show that he is right. To show that someone else or others are guilty of what is happening. As Noam Chomsky says: “All over the place, from the popular culture to the propaganda system, there is constant pressure to make people feel that they are helpless.”

Where does the blame come from?

Family

Blame starts from childhood when you are innocent and someone else scolds you for your mistakes. Your mother, father, older brothers, relatives are blaming you. But you make mistakes because you don’t know certain things. In that way, many times children are beaten and punished.

Thus, a child brought up in violence can become a more violent man than his parents. Or he will fall to the other extreme when he becomes just the source of satisfying the child’s needs.

School

A child who grows up in guilt will be a shy or rebellious child. There are so many examples of children refusing to go to school. They do not like or find any reason to do so. Why?

The teacher scolds the child for not doing something or doing it wrong. Maybe the child has too much homework, or doesn’t know how to do it. He doesn’t understand or needs more explanation. Maybe he got bored at that time and was looking for something more interesting to do.

Moreover, nowadays, children read, even if they don’t do it with a physical book in their hands, but they read from the Internet, search, get informed. When the opinion of the parent or teacher is the opposite of what the child knows, his or her inner war begins. It happens for he does not find any support in those he knows he should believe in. He knows that he “works” as he can and knows, but those around him are not satisfied with what he does. From here, tears, crises of anger, and from the other side come punishments, withdrawals of promises or unfulfilled promises …

The result will be a child full of guilt, feeling as not being born worthy, full of frustration.

Church

The church makes you feel guilty for being a sinner. That’s why you don’t have what you want, that is the reason for the life you live. In that way, you live in a continuous state of guilt.

In addition, you need to stay on your knees for praying, which ancient cultures knew as a sign of slavery.

Society

The blame goes on and the child has the alternatives of what adults are telling him. Unfortunately, he sees that many of the adults do not respect their word. Then he begins to look for his own alternatives. On the one hand, he becomes a “perfectionist” or a “loser”, addicted to drink, drugs, fights. On the other hand, look for revenge against those around him whom he considers responsible for his inner pain. From here, revenge on parents, teachers and themselves – suicide.

In fact, as an anxious person, you are a person full of fear and guilt. You are a person dissatisfied with the life you live. Also, you will always expect something better, looking to an unknown future. Instead, you do not live what is most important: now.

As an adult, you feel guilty or blame others. It is because you do not have a better job, or a bigger, more beautiful house. It is because of money, car, another marriage. So, there will be guilt, and it will be carried on your shoulders or thrown on somebody else’s.

What can you do for not feeling guilty?

• Look for your negative emotions to let them go.

• See what is good and beautiful in the beings around you.

• Do not blame yourself for mistakes, but learn from them.

• Don’t blame others for what you live.

• Take attitude when you feel that something does not resonate with your truth.

• Teach the child that there is no need to feel guilty when he does not know something. No one is born to know everything, but we all can learn.

• Teach your child not to feel guilty for doing mistakes. Any mistake is a lesson.

• Do good as many times as you have the opportunity, regardless of whether it is the being next to you or Mother Earth.

• Look at yourself being born a worthy being. Anybody else is neither better nor less good than you.

Are you feeling guilty or not guilty?

One of the Zamolxis Laws (33) says:

“Is there a flower more beautiful than the other? Does exist one stream clearer than the other? Is there one piece of grass better than others? Each one has its strength, beauty, and ability. It is in the nature of things that the forest has different varieties of trees, grass, flowers, and animals. There are not two fingers alike at the same hand, but you need all to beat the iron. Is the left hand better than the right? Does the left eye see in another way than the right one? The above have their meaning and the below ones have their meaning, the big things have their reason and the little ones the same, the fast ones have their reason and the slow ones have them too, the things that have existed had their meaning and those who come will have their meaning, too.”

Therefore, there is no one better than you. Then, are you guilty or not guilty?

You can feel guilty for one thing – of not living your life. As Voltaire says: “Every man is guilty of all the good he did not do.”

With Love,

Copyright © 2019 manuela@inalove.world

We all gain knowledge and know that “knowledge is power”. Is it or is it not true? Do you expect others to act for you? Then, your knowledge is just potential power. When you are acting, your knowledge becomes your real power.

We all dream and believe in our dreams more or less. Are the dreaming and believing enough? Noel Peebles says “Action is more important than just believing. Don’t just dream about it, don’t just believe you can… go and make it happen. Develop a sense of urgency in your life to make it happen. Take action!” 

Why is important to act?

• It is a way of making your dreams come true
• Your dream makes you be the real YOU 
• Those dreams make you feel alive, for you do what your dream 
• Nobody will act for you
• You change your thoughts
• Acting, you feel you are born being worthy
• You believe in yourself without expecting other’s opinions about you, and your results and your actions become a bridge between you and your creation.

Moreover, “Your persistent actions are the bridge between mind and matter, between the inner and the outer. Do what you are called to do. Do it with grit, do it with courage, do it with boldness and faith, and do it every day for the rest of your life.”― Dragos Bratasanu 

Why do you need Courage?

I have heard and used myself the following words many times: I will start going after my wish when I am …, I have, … I know from my experience that it is not easier to start new things. You may feel afraid of so many things. You even can feel punished by losing money, friends, family, and your home. Unfortunately, people around you will try to stop you from changing yourself because you will no longer be a part of the crowd.  It is the way we are educated. We are told to repress our feelings and dreams, for we cannot succeed in what we want. Actually, all repressing leads to anxiety and depression.

Besides, there could be an idea that you cannot leave what you have for something unknown. Something that you do not yet know if it will work for you. It is what you know. It is your fear of not being able to follow your heart.

To overcome all your fears you have to step over them. You have to believe in yourself and follow your heart. It is your coffer of treasure with well-hidden wishes and dreams. Also, it shows you the map you have to follow for taking action.

When should you expect to take action? 

Contrary to all fears, your heart knows that everything can be possible. It does not need someone else’s opinion or a pile of money to know that you can do what you want, and you can start right now.

Trying to wait for the right moment and the right move, it can be too late for it, or it may never happen. Therefore, now it is time to begin what you want, whether you are ready or not. Every moment brings something new in your life. That new changes your being in every moment.

Nobody can tell you when the right moment is for something you want. You know it for you can feel it. You are not only older but wiser with every moment of your life. 

 Do not be afraid of using every moment of your life for what you want. Take action now, every day for the rest of your life!

My answer to the question above will be “take action right now”. That “now” is all we have and “Today is all that matters. Today you hold a hundred years in your hand.” (Dr. Quinn – The Medicine Woman)

Who do you expect to act for you? 

Waiting for another time and someone else’s approval, you feel you are not worthy. You do what you do for some results expected by others, but not by you. Just look inside yourself to see what you wish and follow your path.

Do not expect anybody to do what you do not do.  What you do not change for yourself, no one will do it. You have to do your part. As Jim Kwik says “If knowing is half the battle, the action is the second half of the battle.”

Act for yourself, for you will live with no regrets. Moreover, ”When you leave this world the only things you take with you are the things that you have stored in Your heart.” and your dreams are stored in.

The One who you were waiting for is You. You should expect no one to act for you. You should expect you to act for you!

With Love,

Copyright © 2019 manuela@inalove.world